WHAT IS PERFECTIONISM?

: Perfectionism is the effort to make the best of everything. A person always has feelings such as being the best, being able to get what he wants, never making mistakes, thinking that he is not always good enough at what he does, a desire to get everything he wants, always being in the forefront, always doubting himself or someone else. But one enjoys it. Although they think it is a healthy, motivating and good thing, they actually harm themselves and their environment.

WHY DOES PERFECTIONISM OCCUR, WHAT ARE THE SYMPTOMS ?

Perfectionism starts first in the family and then in the environment, that is, from people's expectations. The attitude of the parents towards the child, if there are perfectionist parents in the family, the expectation from the child is in that direction and leads the child to perfectionism, the expectation of being the best in grades in the exams and school, the expectation of being the first, people who have been subjected to constant fights, violence and various abuses. Childhood trauma is often seen in people who have achieved their childhood satisfaction and everything they want.

Feeling that he has failed at everything he has tried, regularly postponing, obsessed with rules, lists, and work, struggling to relax and share your thoughts and feelings, being more controlling in personal and social events.

IS THERE ANY SOLUTIONS AND TREATMENTS FOR PERFECTIONISM?

You can seek psychological therapy. Cognitive -behavioral therapy, in particular, can help you learn new ways of thinking about your goals and achievements. It is necessary to create the awareness that if you make a mistake, it can be corrected again.